How to Tell Someone You Are Not ready for SEX

You're in a relationship. Your partner wants to have sex. But, you don't want to. Tell them. It doesn't have to be in an intimate situation. In fact, it's better if you're not in an intimate situation when you tell them. But, if you do decide to wait until last minute, make sure you do tell them you're not ready to have sex.


If you know that you don't want to have sex when the relationship begins, tell your partner when the relationship begins. Don't keep putting it off or you might not get the chance to tell them and it will be too late.

Tell your partner straightforward that you are not ready to have sex. It will be harder to do this when you are making out, so just tell them at the start. If they truly love you, they will respect your wishes.If they are still trying to force you to have sex, leave right away.

Give reasons if you have them. Reasons help, but the fact that you don't want to have sex should be enough for your partner. Wanting to save yourself for marriage and risks such as pregnancy and STDs are two very common reasons for not wanting to have sex. Not having sex until marriage may be because of religious moral reasons or not wanting STDs.

If your partner can respect your wishes, the relationship can continue. However, if your partner doesn't respect your wishes, it is best to find a new partner that does. (And you will find one, don't worry.)